Wednesday, November 12, 2008
Friendships Can Be Hard
I do not like posting about things like this b/c I do not want to seem like a moron, although I am sometimes, but I am going to write about this anyway. I have friendship issues. Sometimes I do not like to be around people, not b/c I do not like them, but I am just somewhat shy & groups are not always my thing. That being said, sometimes I really like hanging out. I sound bipolar but I'm not. Sometimes I don't return phone calls for long periods of time b/c I feel uncomfortable talking on the phone. I have a lot of acquaintances, but I only form close bonds here and there. I think it may be because I do not trust people. It generally seems harder for me to form close relationships with women. I'm nervous sometimes that other women are being judgemental of me or fake...& yes I can be that way too:( I don't know why I am this way. A lot of the people I meet in the military are really nice, but so different from me. I get invited out to go "clubbing" a lot...totally not my thing! I get invited to a lot of kids birthday parties and I go, but I don't have children so I am a little left out. We haven't met very many people our age without children. My friend says that people like us are called dinks...dual income no kids...I had never heard that before. Anyway, what brought this whole blog on was an incident this weekend. I was going to take my friend out for her birthday & we arranged to meet & she didn't show, or call, & has yet to call. She has done this b/f so I shouldn't be surprised, but I always am. A phone call would have been nice. I waited for 2 hours...not cool. I am not going to take all the blame for my "issues" with friends. I do try to be a considerate, kind person, but sometimes other people do not share the same values. I know friendship is give & take, & I am thankful for my good close friends. Eric's career makes it hard to stay physically in touch with everybody, but I am trying to write & call as much as I can:) Enough of this boring droll! I just needed to get that off my chest, thanks!
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5 comments:
I don't like the sound of "dink". It doesn't sound nice.
You are a sweet person, just hold on to those that are always around. I think we (people in general) want a lot of friends but when you think about it we only have a small handful (maybe 1-2) that are really close.
Yes, that is true. I have a handful of close friends & that is really enough:)
"Dink" definitely sounds like an insult, and I'm so sorry about what happened with your friend who never showed. Anyone would have felt insecure if someone never showed to meet!
I think you are a great friend! And a wonderful person all the way around!! It's that persons loss!
Love Ya,
Silena
I have those same social fears. I like being with people in very small doses because I am rarely ever comfortable around people and look forward to being alone again. Sorry about your night :(
Thank you for your comment on my blog :) I loved it. It reminded me of the song, "If you like Pina Coladas and getting caught in the rain" I don't actually remember how that song goes. I wish we had become better friends in college. We seem to have a lot in common :)
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